by Jenny Pinson
As I write this letter, I can see you sitting in that apartment in Winter Haven, Florida. You’re 24, single, and living 10 hours away from family. You’re in an amazing church, surrounded by people who are trying to speak into your life, but you aren’t listening. Not really. You are lonely and feeling sorry for yourself.
You’re insecure wondering where your life is really going. When will Mr. Right come along and sweep you off your feet? You just know that he’s all you need to feel secure in who you are—just to have a man validate that you’re worth something… to complete you.
Stop it! That is a lie from the enemy! Your worth is in who you are in Christ, not in any man. Spend these days and hours developing your relationship with Him. It’s the only relationship that will complete you. Only He can validate your worth.
“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful. I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. How precious to me are your thoughts, God! How vast is the sum of them! Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand—when I awake, I am still with you.” (Psalm 139:13-18)
Your worth was determined the moment you were conceived. Your worth is so great that God’s thoughts about you are innumerable! His love for you is so deep that He sacrificed His only Son for you. Until you believe that, any relationship you have is doomed for disaster; because no man, no matter how amazing he is, can ever give you what you need to convince you of your worth.
Instead of sitting on that couch watching TV and feeling sorry for yourself, get out and go do things. Take a class. Get into a Bible study. Go on mission trips (one day you’ll regret not traveling more). Invest in those awesome friends and leaders God has put in your life.
Listen, really listen, to those who are telling you it is worth the wait, to stop worrying about it. Because, guess what? In a few years (I’m not telling you how many), he does come along and is so worth the wait. I promise. You were only ready because you finally figured out the things I’m telling you now. You would’ve enjoyed the single years so much more if you had listened to those who had already walked this path.
God is good and you can trust Him with your future. All of it! There are going to be some tough times ahead, but God is faithful. He “will never leave you nor forsake you.” You can trust Him.
Your much older and wiser self
P.S. Don’t get that credit card or the 2-year gym membership!! You’re going to get yourself into trouble with that card, and you’re only going to use that gym for 2 months! Just don’t do it.