by jordan headly
"WE LAUGH IN PAIN BECAUSE WE KNOW THAT GOD BRINGS JOY IN PAIN."
When you think of laughter, you don’t necessarily think of pain. Well… sometimes you do. We’ve all had those moments where we laughed until it hurt, or like my friend Josh who laughed until he vomited. Have you ever wondered how do we bring laughter into pain?
My wife Whitney and I have a 6-year-old little girl named Harper Rose. Whitney’s pregnancy was ROUGH! When she delivered Harper Rose, she was 5 pounds less than her pre-pregnancy weight. Whitney was always complaining about being sick and nauseous, but I never saw her “react over the porcelain throne.” So, moms… Don’t hate me, but I thought maybe she was a little dramatic. MOMS, please don’t give up on this!
One day, Whitney called me crying and said she didn’t make it to the bathroom, that she shot breakfast (to say it less graphically) everywhere. I drove home from work super skeptic. Upon entering the house, I found it true. She sprayed the walls, the hall, and the floor. I found her on the floor, crying and in pain. Then… I began to laugh. In tears, she sat on the floor and laughed. We both sat in the middle of her regurgitated breakfast and laughed.
The past few months have been a season of pain for so many of us. Maybe there is a pain of navigating new “normals” or the pain of sickness. There are even cancelled dream vacations, like ours to Disney World. I couldn’t wait to go to Disney World with my girls again! For some, happiness feels lost. The truth is, we can laugh in pain if we have joy.
Joy is this crazy internal thing. Happiness is derived from external things, but joy is deep down and internal. We found joy and laughter in a hard season by not looking at the external but digging deep internally. We read in 1 Peter 4:12-13—
“Dear friends, don’t be surprised at the fiery trials you are going through, as if something strange were happening to you. Instead, be very glad—for these trials make you partners with Christ in his suffering, so that you will have the wonderful joy of seeing his glory when it is revealed to all the world.”
We laugh in pain because we know that God brings joy in pain. We find joy because we can’t wait to see what God is doing next. We laugh in pain because we have a joy that comes from knowing God is always doing something. We laugh because we remember that there is something great He will reveal! He’s working, and laughter is a reminder of the joy we have inside.
We all want pain to end, but sometimes we must wait. We laugh and find joy in pain because we know that what God is doing in us, while we wait, is often more important than what we are waiting for. Whitney and I laughed at the second appearance of her breakfast because it was a reminder. It was a reminder that God was doing something and growing something in her. It’s sometimes the waiting and pain we go through that will birth the greatest miracles in our lives. For us, the miracle was our daughter Harper Rose.
Find the moments to laugh and see joy in the pain, because God uses the pain. We can laugh and say, “What will God do next?” As we part ways, you can laugh at how many ways I tried to avoid saying vomit, throw-up, and puke…